• Sometimes You Have to Plan

    Finding time for sex can be hard sometimes. Add in a taste for long BDSM scenes and it can be almost impossible for things to be spontaneous when your life gets a little bit hectic. While almost everyone has experienced this to some extent, there is still a prevalent...
  • Hearts in Bloom: A Review of ‘Mud’

    By Ariel Rose trigger warning: “Mud” contains drawn violence, gore, and reference to rape It’s rare to find a portrayal of BDSM in mainstream media that is at all accurate, let alone positive. So whenever I do stumble upon the odd work of fiction that involves kink – usually...
  • Show Me Your Teeth: Pushing the Envelope

    By Ariel Rose (Second in a two-part series about limits and boundaries, covering topics that include using checklists to negotiate and the difference between “hard” and “soft” limits.) I knew from the start that he wanted more pain. He had asked me, almost begged me, for more, and I...
  • Is BDSM Sexist?

    By Charlie Hale As a feminist kinkster who can’t keep their mouth shut, I often find myself defending BDSM against accusations of sexism – accusations that it’s about abusing and manipulating women. A lot of these accusations are fueled by a lack of understanding of what kink is about....
  • Show Me Your Teeth: From Top to Bottom

    By Ariel Rose If you had asked me in high school what I thought the words “top” and “bottom” meant, in a sexual context, I’d have thought you were being deliberately obtuse. Obviously, I’d have confidently replied, a top is the person who’s on top when you’re having sex,...
  • Show Me Your Teeth: Please Allow Me to Introduce Myself

    By Ariel Rose Introducing yourself is easy. It’s so easy, we have a script for it: smile, shake hands or bow, say your name, and let the other person do the same. Some introductions can be even simpler than that. For example: hi! I’m a junior (soon to be...
  • Fit to be Tied: Introductions

    By Kaletina Since I’m new around here, I thought I would begin by telling you all a little bit about myself. I am a 21-year-old college junior, living in the land of ‘Why is it Still Fucking Snowing; it’s April’. I like cats and books and staying on the...