• Put Your Money Where it Counts

    As we all unfortunately know, Fifty Shades of Grey was made into a movie. Someone took a terrible book and decided to spend millions of dollars turning it into what will inevitably be a terrible movie. It’s not like Hollywood hasn’t done this in the past, but there’s a...
  • Don’t be “That” Dominant When You Log In

    As awful as it is and as much as I wish it weren’t true, the BDSM community does include a handful of very, very shady individuals. We’ve all had it happen, have seen it happen, or know someone it’s happened to: that lecherous creep who makes unwanted advances or...
  • Last Minute Gifts

    Somehow, the holidays are already here. Whatever you celebrate, if anything, maybe it snuck up on you too and now you’re scrambling to think of what to buy. Well, I’m here to give you a few helpful hints for the friends and loved ones you still need to buy...
  • Sometimes You Have to Plan

    Finding time for sex can be hard sometimes. Add in a taste for long BDSM scenes and it can be almost impossible for things to be spontaneous when your life gets a little bit hectic. While almost everyone has experienced this to some extent, there is still a prevalent...
  • Representation Done Right

    I’ve previously discussed how difficult it can be to find an accurate representation of BDSM in pop culture. Unfortunately, the most mainstream thing we in the kink community have to “represent” us is Fifty Shades of Grey.  I don’t think I have to clarify why that’s terrible.  So, when...
  • Venturing Into Anal

    For some reason, when it comes to anal sex, women are assumed to be completely uninterested. Even women who do like it feel embarrassed coming forward and admitting they willingly have anal. It’s worse when their friends might make comments along the lines of “thank god (s)he’s never tried...
  • A Different Kind of Aftercare

    When people within the BDSM community hear aftercare, the first thought is of a Dom(me) carefully taking care of their submissive. They might fetch a glass of water, place a tender kiss on spots that might be a bit sore, light a cigarette for their partner to enjoy, or...
  • 50 Shades of Ridiculous

    I hope every person who is remotely interested in BDSM is aware of how horrible the Fifty Shades of Grey books are. With the recent release of the movie trailer, I thought it was time for me to address a few things about hype that surrounds such a problematic...
  • Look Outside the Price Tag

    Toys can ban be fun, but there isn’t always room in a person’s budget to outfit an entire dungeon. Problem is, branching out into BDSM often requires the use of things other than your body. Obviously, some people have no desire to hold their partner down with anything other...